One of the things that we like to do is human beings is to fantasize about how our lives would be different if something were different. It turns out that this mode of thinking produces two distinctive outputs. The first is that it allows our minds to drift into a world where events unfold exactly as we would like. The second is that by using the word if, it absolves our minds of any responsibility for making our dreams a reality.
The effect is very subtle, but it is still very powerful. By thinking about our life if our dreams became reality, it sub-consciously reinforces the belief that our dreams will stay dreams. A much more productive mode of thought is to consider how we can traverse the distance from where our current mode in life to where we want to be. This doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t dream about what life could be like, and use that as a vision to inspire our actions. It simply means that we should not give ourselves an easy way out of failing to achieve our dreams.